I had a couple in my office a few weeks ago for pre-marital counseling, and we were talking about the characteristics that each needed in a partner. One of the qualities they agreed on was "Loyalty." But oh, what different definitions they had!
"Jeff" defined loyalty as putting their relationship before all others. They, as a couple, took precedence over any other friend or family relationships. "Susan," on the other hand, defined it as agreeing with her on everything, especially in front of other people. This meant that even if Jeff had an entirely different opinion than Susan, she would consider is disloyal for him to voice it to others.
That's quite a difference in definitions of a fairly simple word. What does "loyalty" in your primary relationship mean to you? Are there other words in which you and your partner get hung up on different definitions? Let's have some conversation about semantics.
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