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Guest blogger, Brooke Chaplan, has some thoughts today on making a marriage last. After you've read her blog, I'd love your thoughts - what would you add to Brook's list?
Make a Lasting Marriage: Tips to Preserve Your Relationship
With so many divorces happening each and every day, it is no
wonder that married people worry about how they can make their relationships
last. There are no secret ingredients to a long-lasting marriage. It takes
love, respect, and work from both partners. Yet, there are a few tips that can
help you preserve your relationship, and maintain a long, healthy marriage.
Keep Communication Open
Open communication means more than just talking to your partner
each day. You have to be honest in that communication, and make sure your wants
and needs are clear. Real communication cannot take place in a few minutes on
the phone, while feeding the kids dinner, or through text messages. If you
don't like talking to your partner, or don't feel that it is important enough
to demand your time, then there is an issue that needs to be explored and
Life can be busy, especially if you have kids. Therefore, it
is vital that married couples take time for themselves, and enjoy spending time
together. Spending time together can help couples reconnect, and remember that
connection that brought them together in the first place. It is important for
couples to share time together doing activities they both enjoy. Find time for
you and your spouse to connect one on one, whether it's a long shopping trip
together, or a nice dinner once a week.
Add Some Spice
When life seems dull and repetitive, marriage can feel the
same way. To make the marriage last, a couple has to figure out ways to spice
up life. This might mean taking a romantic vacation together, or trying
something new in the bedroom. You might even try taking a class together. When
you learn together, you will be able to connect and have fun, making memories
to last a lifetime.
Each partner in a marriage must maintain some degree of
independence to make the marriage work for the long run. Partners who become
too clingy, or couples who can't seem to detach themselves from each other
often have real issues that must be solved. Individual partners must have their
own interests, hobbies, and meaningful work to keep them happy. Do what is best
for you, and make sure your spouse feels valued as an individual. This will
help the both of you stay afloat when you need to take a break from each other.
When a marriage seems to be in trouble, couples cannot
immediately abandon ship. One idea is to seek advice from a therapist or
marriage counselor. Marriages sometimes need new energy breathed into them, and
quitting before giving the marriage a chance is not always the answer.
Couples must understand that all marriages have low points
and high points. The trick is to hang on to each other through the tough times.
“Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer and blogger. She lives
in Los Lunas. New Mexico where she writes, runs, and hikes. In her research of
this article she found Valerie
M. Little Law Corporation can offer legal advice when marriages are in
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